From This Side of the Couch…
A collection of writings from a therapist / mom / veteran / human
The Mental Load in Relationships: Why “I’ll Just Do It Myself” Happens
She’s not just doing more. She’s thinking more. Planning more. Holding more.
This is what the mental load actually looks like in relationships — and why “I’ll just do it myself” isn’t a personality trait, it’s a pattern.
What to Expect Beginning Couples Therapy
Starting couples therapy can feel uncertain. Learn what to expect, how the process works, and why understanding relationship patterns is key to meaningful change.
The Work of Understanding Our Past Selves
Growth doesn’t erase who we used to be. Sometimes the real work is learning to understand our past selves with curiosity instead of shame.
Rethinking Relationships: Monogamy, Polyamory, and the Stories We Tell About Love
Modern culture often assumes there’s one “correct” way to do relationships. This article explores monogamy, polyamory, and the cultural stories that shape how we think about love.
Why Therapists Use Screeners to Track Progress
Short questionnaires called “screeners” are often used in therapy to help track emotional well-being and progress over time. This article explains why therapists use them and how they support the therapy process.