From This Side of the Couch…

A collection of writings from a therapist / mom / veteran / human

adult attachment, couples therapy, mental load, anxious attachment, breakups, relationships, emotional availability, personal growth, emotional immaturity, narcissism Elizabeth Melchione adult attachment, couples therapy, mental load, anxious attachment, breakups, relationships, emotional availability, personal growth, emotional immaturity, narcissism Elizabeth Melchione

“But You Did It Too” Is Where Conversations Go to Die

When someone responds to “you hurt me” with “yeah but you hurt me too,” it sounds fair - but it’s actually deflection. Here’s why that pattern keeps relationships stuck.

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adult attachment, couples therapy, mental load, anxious attachment, breakups, relationships, emotional availability, personal growth Elizabeth Melchione adult attachment, couples therapy, mental load, anxious attachment, breakups, relationships, emotional availability, personal growth Elizabeth Melchione

“I’m Working on Myself”: What That Actually Means in Dating

“I’m working on myself” sounds like a green flag - but it can mean very different things depending on where someone actually is in the process. Here’s what to look for, and why so many people end up investing in potential instead of reality.

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